Prefectionism is a self-hate crime. It falls into the category of other self-hate crimes like procrastination and passive-aggression. (There are no self-hate crimes that begin with any letter other than P).
I'm not sure how to get over self-hate crimes. I'd refer you to my therapist but I quit therapy in a moment of passionate self-loathing. We (my therapist and I) haven't talked since then.
They say that hate is rooted deeply in fear; that at its root hate *is* love, just love corrupted and inverted by fear. That it's a desire to love, so deep and so idealized that it loses its grip on reality and fearfully flips into strong, abject aversion.
When I hear talk about how hate and love are just two sides of the same emotion, I know that you don't really know what you're talking about. Because love, the unidealized emotion, is birthed from the truest living, momentary and unattached. There is no way to hate and to be unattached. These are orthogonal states.
Hatred has no hope of perfection. it can never be distilled from the fear that underwrites it. It is possible to wholly love but it is not possible to perfectly hate.
(this is a fact that i hate).
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